Experiential change: Recovering from trauma, rewiring the brain, developing secure attachments, learning constructive coping skills, and changing core beliefs are best achieved via positive experiences with significant others—therapists, parents, spouses, and siblings. Effective treatment employs mental, emotional, and interpersonal experiences, in a safe, sensitive, and supportive manner. Healing parents realize that the experience of a positive relationship with their children is the primary vehicle for change.

Dr . Terry Levy and Mr. Michael Orlans co-wrote this article. They are the co-authors of two books and co-lead seminars on attachment and trauma. They welcome hearing from you.