In our work with adults, we assist individuals and/or couples to become aware of past losses, incompletions and repetitive destructive patterns in their lives. We then provide opportunities to integrate and heal these roadblocks to growth and happiness.
Although there are many similarities in the human experience, we all have unique qualities and problems. You are an important part of the treatment team. We develop a customized program to meet an individual’s needs through an ongoing blend of assessments and interventions.
The primary goal of treatment is positive change — new choices, perspectives, options, behaviors, coping strategies and relationships. We explore areas such as anger management, conflict resolution, communication skills and improved self-image.
Issues and Goals
Learn Relationship Skills
Adults who grew up in families where problems were not openly discussed lack an effective model for how to solve problems and resolve conflict. We emphasize the teaching of skills that enhance the couple’s ability to work out their differences in a healthy way.
Resolve Old Grief
We often need to go through a process of grieving our childhood losses and pain to properly move into adult roles. Otherwise, we bring these unresolved feelings into our intimate relationships. We offer an opportunity for healing and mastering the original hurts rather than re-enacting them by withdrawing or attacking.
Find New Approaches
Intellectual understanding is not enough to convince our emotions to change. Our feelings rule our interactions and determine our attitudes, judgments and perceptions. We provide a safe, collaborative environment in which to cut through defenses and try out new, more productive behaviors.
Develop Attachment Communication Skills
Effective communication is a key to successful relationships. We provide the conditions and structure necessary to create safe and constructive confiding, opening and connecting. This is accomplished by practicing sharing and listening skills, which increases positive patterns of interacting. Being attuned to one another’s needs and feelings promotes empathy, warmth and genuineness. Current relationship patterns are tied to prior family-of-origin attachment patterns. We assist couples in developing healthy communication, problem-solving and conflict-management skills.